Comparing homes as a couple
Last reviewed 16 October 2026 · by Eddy Hwang
When two people tour together, the more confident voice tends to set the score. Scoring separately first makes it easier to see where you actually agree.
1. Agree on the criteria, not the weights
Sit down once and agree on the list of criteria and must-haves. Use the same names so they line up later. Then each of you sets your own importance levels. It is normal for one person to rate “Commute” at 5 and the other at 2. That difference is useful to know before you fall for a house.
2. Score on your own devices
Open TourLedger on each phone. After each showing, score without talking about it first. Leave anything you did not look at as “Not checked”.
3. Compare
When you are ready, one person creates a share link for the homes you both visited and sends it to the other. Opening the link shows a read-only comparison table. The receiver can add those homes to their own ledger as copies; this never changes their own homes or importance levels. Criteria with the same name line up in one row.
Look for rows where your scores differ by 2 or more. Those are the conversations worth having: maybe one of you noticed the noise and the other did not, or you value the garden differently.
4. Decide what to look at again
Disagreement on something you can check (water pressure, the commute time, the HOA rules) is a reason for a second visit or a question to the agent. Disagreement on taste is a reason to talk about the weights, not the house.
Good to know
- Share links copy the scores at the moment you create them. Later edits are not sent; create a new link.
- Notes and addresses are left out of share links unless you include them. If your notes include anything you would not want forwarded, leave them out.
- For a complete copy, including notes, send a backup file instead and restore it on the other device. Restoring replaces that device’s ledger, so use it only on a device that has no records of its own yet.
Before sending a link, read Sharing a scorecard safely.